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As slave masters raped enslaved women, their lighter-skinned illegitimate offspring were given preferential treatment over their darker counterparts, often working in the house as opposed to the fields. Like other systems of racial inequality, American colorism was born out of slavery.

We are not as valued as our lighter-skinned counterparts when seeking romantic partners, our dating pool constricted because of something as arbitrary as shoe size. The real issue is staring me right in the face: my deep mahogany skin.Ĭolorism – the prejudice based on skin tone – has stunted the romantic lives of millions of dark-skinned black women, including me. For a while, I concluded I was “not that interesting,” a line I subsequently used as my biography on social media. At first, I thought it was because I was intimidating – a word I’ve heard used to describe me. I’ve spent so much time trying to understand what is so unattractive about me that men shun me.